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The Understanding Partner

Why does it always seem like the partners who are “understanding” are the ones who gets cheated along in relationships?

Is it a bad thing to be an understanding partner?

Do we not all crave for one who understands us and do not lash out on us while we’re down?

Do we not all want a shoulder to lean on and cry when we’re buried with lives downs?

So why do we cheat these “understanding “ partners?

Why do we always neglect this one? Could it be that we do not want an understanding partners?

Why is it that the understanding partner gets less attention, gets less aids, less financial help, less commitment, less attention even, dare I say less love? Why is everything about the understanding partner, less?

Well, I’ll tell you “why”. It is not because they are not appreciated or because they are not loved. It’s not even the fault of these guys when they decide to leave an understanding partner.

The reason is this; Naturally, humans move towards things that could challenge them, especially men. Men always want a challenge that makes them feel like; ” I’m up to the tasks, I can do this thing, I can do that thing”…But by the time this understanding partner says; ” I understand you don’t have money now, don’t worry, I’ll take care of myself. I understand you dont have my time, youre very busy with work. Dont bother, I’ll fend for and lookout for myself. I’ll take myself shopping. I will manage”. They’re not encouraging that person be who they ought to be. They’re not pushing them in the direction they want to go. These understanding partners allow for laxities and excuses

But you see those ones, those crooks? Those crooks of a side babes/boos that are hanging over your man, Those ones do not understand, Jack! When they want 50,000 naira, it’s 50,000 naira or nothing. When they want attention, it’s 100% attention or nothing. When they want care, it is 100% care or nothing. When they want your time, it’s 100% your time or nothing! They do not settle for less but understanding. Partners are settlers. They settle for everything and anything, right? So there are always OK. They say; ” Since you can’t do this, Or you can’t do this at this time. No problem. I will manage. I will settle”. Let me tell you something if I may,  Settling and management are for parents. Leave that to the parents. They are the ones that manageand/or settle. We might probably add older couples to the list as well…

Don’t settle!

The more you settle, the more everybody will just put you by the side.

I hope I make sense.

Dear reader, I’m not in any way encouraging selfishness and greed.

I am only saying that while you’re an “understanding partner”, be what your partner needs! Be the push! Be the reason there are no flimsy excuses!

Let’s trash this out in the comment section!

Do you think I’m right? Let me know down below!

Ensure to share to and “understanding partner “.